Is porn becoming more female friendly in 2020?

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Short isn’t usually a phrase synonymous with porn, but I’d have to say the short answer is yes. The long answer is somewhat more complicated.

I was sitting having a coffee earlier in the week with Jodie, a middle aged Mom who is the eldest sister of one of my closest girlfriends. I walk with her in Central Park after yoga on Thursdays. She was asking me what I was writing. I told her I was working on a story about porn for my new Medium digest blog. “I’m a porn star”, she pronounced, before laughing out loud.
“I still like being fucked doggystyle by Danny on Saturday nights after all the kids are asleep. I then go down on him, and let him shoot all over my face before finishing him off with a blowjob”, she exclaimed.
“Okay so then I retreat to the front porch for a cigarette and a gin, while he sleeps off a six pack and a week of shift work. I guess not many big boobed blonde female porn star’s finish there 5 minute 10 second porn movies that way do they?” Jodie questions, reflecting on her real life porn story.
And Jodie’s probably correct in what she says. The Brandi Love’s of the porn world usually finish off their porn movies (having been facialized by their middle aged steroid driven male co star), with a swallow of his wad of cum, a smile and a cheesy line like “Man you taste good”.
Front porch reflections after sex aren’t really par for the porn course in 2020.

                            Brandi Love — photo courtesy of Reddit.com

“So what is par for the porn course in 2020?” I pondered.
I thought to answer this question I’d dig a little deeper with my middle aged friend Jodie.
“So what have you been jilling off to lately Jodie?” I enquired.
“When Danny’s out on shift work that is?” I asked.
“Well I’m thinking it’s all fantasy anyway, isn’t Sasha”, she responded, somewhat hesitantly, with an embarrassed smile meeting her apparent blush. “But I’ve been watching those Stepmom movies. You know, the ones where the Stepmom shows her stepdaughter how to have sex with her boyfriend, and then decides to fuck him as well”, she says, before bursting out laughing.
“You know, the ones where the stepdaughter licks her from underneath while he is doing her from behind. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to have a threesome where someone was licking me while a guy was screwing me. Thats a real turn on for me”, Jodie announces, as if to release herself of a heavy burden.
“Cool,” I said. “That’s cool”, I said, thankful to her for opening up (or so to speak) on her porn story.

Then having chatted to several girlfiriends around my own age I realised that porn in 2020 was in fact becoming more female friendly. Having perused through porn platforms such as beeg.com I found that many of the big star were males, which was good to see. Clearly I’m not the only female jilling off on porn in 2020. And my porn research highlighted that many of the male porn stars online were slightly younger and a little thinner than they were a decade ago. They weren’t all James Deen’s but they weren’t all old hulks who looked like their only job could have been in male porn, if you pick up on my thread.

                         James Deen — photo courtesy of Pinterest

Yes there were all those stupid fetish type feeds that are a turn off to most females, like squirting, scat and an over abundance of female solo movies, but for the main part there were plenty of female friendly films to choose from. And that was on a mainstream porn feed. But in 2020 I’ve converted many of my girlfriends, and indeed some of my male colleagues across to a new era of female friendly porn channels, including “Frolicme.com”. I must confess to writing for Anna over at “Frolicme”. So yes i may appear a tad biased, but realistically “Frolicme”, and porn sites of the same genre, are definitely appealing to girls and women who like a bit more intimacy with their porn, and a little less of the rough sex tag we think of when analysing porn. The “Frolicme” films have a European feel and traverse across a plethora of genres and sexual tags. From male masturbation, couples sex, female only, gay, interracial and solo sex scenes, there is a fresh feel to these female friendly shorts, wherein the cinematography, costume design (or lack of it), and engaging scripts, all add to the appeal of this subscription based service. And btw it’s not just films. At “Frolicme” you can choose whether to feed your porn in audio or script form in addition to movie format. Whilst there’s plenty of porn pics for you “jill off” to on the site if you’re not up for a full feature.

           Photo courtesy of Frolime.com

In conclusion the long answer is porn in 2020 is more female friendly than it was in the late 90’s. Plenty of girls and women are enjoying jilling off to or simply watching stylish porn that isn’t all about men getting their rocks off. But yes we still have a bit of a way to go. Finding sound female friendly porn online that is easy on the eyes can be difficult at times. There is still an overwhelming abundance of unrealistic porn movies that are filmed far away from from the real life sexual situations we find ourselves in.

But as Jodie said, “Well I’m thinking it’s all fantasy anyway, isn’t Sasha”.

My 18th

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I had never stayed on my own in a motel before without my parents. And certainly never with a boy. But on my 18th I was breaking all the rules. 

I could hear the boats outside on the water but my head was inside. Dirk was kissing me on the stomach and making his way upward to my pert breasts. His tongue now encircling my young nipples, as they sprang to attention upon his touch. Then without a second thought I reached down to pull my panties off, pushing them past my ankles before throwing them on the floor of the room. I don’t what made me do it, I guess it was my body heating up at the feeling of Dirks lips against my breasts. Or maybe it was just the fact I wanted it. I had waited so long for this moment I could wait no more. 

Dirks blond wavy hair now lowered down my torso, as I slowly opened my long legs, lifting my knees as I spread them slightly further. My head arched backwards now as Dirk met my wet slit with his soft, warm toungue. I then raised my shoulders from the bed, my elbows lifting me up to watch as he licked at my warmth. My juice was glistening upon his lips as he began to suck at my eager button. In and out of his freshman mouth. And then as if completely on impulse I reached down to push his head into me. Almost pulling at his hair as I grinded into his mouth. Thrusting onto his tongue as he licked me up then down, before sucking at my clit as he took me town. Moaning and moaning I then came with a scream, laughing but scared I’d wake the whole team.  But at 2 in the morning they’d be dead to the world, or drunk and passed out with another girl. My body was shaking. I could feel my warm love juice, dripping inside my thighs, passionate and spent. Dirk was just so hot, so gorgeous and complete, from the first time Id seen him, he’d knocked me off my feet. 

“Bend over Josie,” he now whispered in my ear, and with that I rolled over as he entered me from behind, penetrating my young pussy, simply blowing my mind. I could feel him deep inside me, as I pushed harder and harder back, asking him to fuck me, to fill my aching crack. Maybe I was in love, or something in between, Dirk was just sooo hot, so strong and so lean. His body was electric, as he slid inside my hole, filling up my tightness, with his slender long hard pole. I could then feel his squirt, his sticky warm hot cum, as he pulled out from my pussy, to splash all over my bum.

Rolling back over I licked him, and took him in my mouth, to catch a final sprinkle, as he pushed his yummy juice out. His face now smiled upon me, his jaw was broad and clean, his cheekbones such a feature, forever creating a scene. Yet on my 18th he was mine, to hold and cherish and love, my entire body sprayed with ecstasy, as he lit me up from above. What more could a young girl wish for, I thought as he gazed down, Dirk was the ultimate catch, and I had him all to myself. He made me feel so wanted, so horny and hot all at once, I began to rub my pussy, my need to cum now intense. I wanted to finger myself in front of him, to show him my love was immense, to show him how much I desired him, beyond all common sense. “Fuck you make me feel hot Dirk,” I said pulling away from his knob. “I’m cumming for you baby,” I screamed as I fingered my hole, deeper and deeper inside my pink slit, to reach my orgasmic goal.

I can’t remember much more, it was a long time ago, but from above my gin and tonic, I can feel an inner glow.

Soph’s finals

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The leaves had started to fall from the trees. I felt a chill as I pulled my pink singlet down, exposing my upright nipples even further. Pushing the wax bottle away with my left leg toward the window, looking down into the courtyard I could see Sonya walking toward the front door. Her blond hair was tied up in a ponytail, her white shirt and khaki skirt still immaculate despite having been on her since dawn. Dad was still in Paris at the Annual Architects Convention, so there wasn’t really much excuse for her to stay late in the office.

 

Looking down I could see the reddish marks surrounding my labia and pink lips where the wax had stripped the hair from my inner thighs and pussy. I pulled my pink singlet up slightly and gazed at the black landing above. The thin line of pubic hair making its way upwards toward my navel. I guess I was trying to be cool. To remove myself from the geeky science image I exuded at school. The girl who had creamed her final exams, well maybe. The girl with the geeky glasses, band on her top teeth, lanky legs and civil engineering Mom who had run out and left her when she was 10 for the then member for Minnesota. I slowly ran my index finger along my slit, up into the thin landing strip line, in review of my handy work.  I felt quite proud of it actually. There was a knock at the door and before I could take my hand away from between my legs Sonya pushed through my bedroom door. No doubt blushing as I was I said “Hi”, albeit ashamedly. “I was going to ring your father and was keen to let him know how your chemistry finals went, “ she said.  I was not to upbeat to be honest, and looking down back out into the courtyard Sonya sensed the solemn tone in my voice and attempted to console me. “You’ll be fine,” she said. Math and physics were all good, the marks you need are already in the bank,” she said, trying as hard as she could to lift my spirits.  

I stood up and moved over onto my bed, putting my toes underneath the covers to keep my feet warm. And with that Sonya sat on the edge of the bed and slipped out of her high heels. “That feels better” she exclaimed, before turning to look out the window, as the falling leaves slowly made their way down in the cool evening breeze toward the ledge below. “I’m scared,” I said quietly. “What if I don’t get the marks to make it into College?” Sonya then kneeled along the bed and sat behind me, giving me a gentle hug, in much the same way as she had done when working through the angst of my first period with me, in this very room.  “Its okay Soph”, she whispered, its all going to be okay, you’ll see.”. I began to cry, ever so softly into her crisp white shirt, as she pushed back her long blond hair to make way for my tears. “It’s okay darling”, she said sweetly into my ear. Then taking her hand she lifted up the bottom of my singlet top and began rubbing the palm of her hand in a smooth circular motion around my stomach, and kissed me gently on my neck. “That feels nice,” I said softly. Sonya had always been there for me, I thought, as I straightened my long legs out before me, fully aware of my status as the class dork. The girl who wouldn’t have ever come close to kissing anyone, let alone having sex. OMG I was a nerd. I couldn’t shake the image, even if I had wanted to. At 18 you’d think a girl would be blossoming into the prime of her life. But all I felt like was a geek. A science wonder kid who’d ran out of wonder. 

My sobbing subsided as Sonya began stroking my long legs with her neatly manicured hands, Her fingers running from down at my knees, up along my outstretched thighs, and then across my stomach, before making their way back again toward my knees again. “That feels so good,” I said, wiping the tears away from my face, as I could se the black mascara covering my fingers. I must have looked a mess, I thought. But having Sonya there to comfort me made me feel warm and cosy inside. And for a second my mind escaped from the pressure of my final exams, to focus upon the serenity of her touch. The warmth of her body. And the sweetness of her breath. “You look beautiful, Sonya,” I said. ”You always look beautiful,” I mused, before turning the face her, giving her a kiss firmly on her cheek. And then, almost unconsciously, I began to kiss her on her lips, once, twice and then three times, as if I in a passionate embrace with a long lost lover.. Then, opening my eyes, I blushed again, before apologising profusely. “I’m sorry I said,” totally embarrassed by my actions. To just come out and kiss my stepmom front and centre on the lips was probably the most outrageous thing I’d done in all my 18 years. If not certainly the most embarrassing. Then much to my surprise she kissed me back on the lips, and I could feel her tongue penetrating my lips, finding its way into the moist enclaves inside my mouth, meeting my tongue, as she pressed tightly around my stomach, drawing me into her warm embrace. I began to breath heavily, kissing her back with a passion, sliding my tongue in and out of her mouth. Arching my neck back to meet her gorgeous lips, as she tongued and tongued her way into my wanton mouth.

Then, with her legs wrapped around me, her knees pressed firmly up under my arms, she took my right hand and guided it under hers, down toward my freshly cut landing strip, and into the smooth skin below. “Let see if we can’t relive some of this finals tension she said, in the most sensuous tone I think I had ever heard to that point in my life. And leaning back into her, closing my eyes, I dreamed my way into her spell, as she pushed my hand and fingers in a slow, circular motion from one side of my pink pussy lips to the other. It felt so beautiful, so pulsating, so good. Then she asked me to softly rub my clit with my index finger, as she guided it, inside the warmth of my slit, up toward my young pink button that lay above. My swollen pink clit, needing to be rubbed, to be stroked, to be loved. I began to push into my finger, as she grasped my hand tighter, forcing it inside the top of my hole, then back onto my clit, then back into my juicy slit again..and again. “Its Okay Soph she whispered, in her charismatic, sexy tone. “Its okay, let it all go,” she said. I started to rub harder, in fast movements underneath the warmth of her ever present hands. Her left hand now finding its way beneath my pink singlet, encircling the nipple of my right breast, arousing me even further. I could feel the juice staring to lather around my fingers as I began to finger inside my now wet hole. Sonya then sat back slightly, and pulled my hand away from my hungry snatch. Unbuttoning her pristine white shirt before me, exposing her pure white Victoria’s Secrete bra, enveloping her slender breasts, she chose to kneel before me. The lowering her head toward my lap she looked up, staring into my eyes and spoke once again in her sensuous tone, “let me help you baby, “ she said. And then after lowering her mouth onto my wet pussy lips I felt her tongue slide deep inside me, before flicking my swollen clit from side to side. My body began shaking, writhing and pulsating against her touch. Uncharacteristically I chose to grab her hair band and push her head down into me, as she sucked hard around my clit, drawing it into her mouth. In that moment of ecstasy, of weakness, of pleasure I began moaning, and moaning once more. “I’m coming Mommy,” I exclaimed, as I buckled up, my waist lifting in convulsions as her tongue thrashed into, covering her mouth, lips and tongue with my warm flowing cum, as it gushed from within my tender young hole. “I’m cumming Mommy,” I exclaimed once more, as he pinned my thighs to the bed, continuing to suck at my clit, as the juice flowed freely don toward her chin. Sonya, then pulled back, placing her hand on my stomach, rubbing me softly once more, as I closed my eyes in a sea of ecstasy. The orgasm still lingering, my inner thighs drenched, sweat upon my brow, hands shaking from side to side. “I’d better ring your father, “Sonya said jokingly, as we both began to laugh. “he’s going to be wondering what we’re up to,” she said, smiling now, before picking up her white shirt and closing the door behind her.

from silence into wet

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The light was dim
I could feel the slightest breeze caressing my naked thighs
“Turn around babe”, Jake spoke softly
And with my knees straddled above his legs on the bed,
my butt now facing him
and the palms of my hands suspending me above him,
I began to lower my flesh upon him
drawing in his manhood
breathing in to embrace the initial thrust
that moment of penetration
when my body opened to clasp onto his gorgeousness

Within seconds I was writhing,
Grinding
From side to side my body pushed
Pulling at his length
Guiding him further inward,
Releasing all my liquid
To lay juice upon him whole
Sliding over his hardness
Stretching open upon his pole
My nipples began to strengthen
Beneath ny weathered pink T
further down my landing strip
Glistening for but me to see
As my index finger and middle
Opened my hungry slit
I sensed he needed my fingers
To caress his tender sack

Then in a flurry I buckled
Sprang forth in a lustful release
Cumming and cumming furiously
Gushing from within my warmth
Until all the spasms and moaning
Lay flat upon his strength
My horny, tingling body
Released from hungry to spent

And within my lustful yearning
My want to please my man
I pushed my butt back further
Toward my lovers head
Then gently lowered my lips
To meet his throbbing love
Releasing my wet pink tongue
To lick him from above
Before taking him in slowly
Tightening around his shaft
Sucking and sucking harder
Until he anxiously rose
To force his cock in deeper
Deeper toward my throat
Filling me with pleasure
Drowning me in his need
To shoot his ecstasy forth
To cream my wanton mouth
To spurt his eager cum
To line my tongue in yum

 

I could feel his hands open my cunt
To gaze inside my pink
As he now leaned back in pleasure
Watching as I gasped to drink
But every last drop
Of his beatutiful tasty cum
Swallowing my lovers cream
From intimacy to dream
Then laying aside his chest
My lover
Strong and taut and keen
Built from hauling camera gear
On yet another modelling set scene
Wherein I now watched
as a droplet of sweat dripped beneath my pink T
Down toward the crevice
for my Jack and I to see
As he touched the bead of sweat

Then looked into my eyes
“Hows my birthday girl?”
he whispered
Before affording me a smile
All the time igniting my flame
To throw me from silence into wet
To release my inner juices
Driving me further
into our night
If only it could last forever
One touch, two lips, one bite

Fly me to the moon

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Did you ever wonder what it would be like
To fly to the moon and back
Above all the stars
Our sirens and cars
People on those streets
So eager to meet
Then just walk away
At the end of the day
From you

Once upon a time
I dreamt of a relationship
That lived forever
Without any ends
More than just love
Above being friends
Where we loved as one
Pure and content
Maddening passion
Lustful and spent

The dream never evolved
To outlive my sleep
Now staring at your photo
Be-trodden at my feet
Whereupon I pick you up
To again see your smile
A flicker of hope
To hold but awhile

Yet love doesn’t last
Does it
The moon is too far
Sirens ever present
I can barely see your star
Your willowy neck
Your silver
Distant car
As you wave gently goodbye
Caressing our plight
Like all true relationships
Toward the dead of the night

 

YES WE’VE DONE IT AGAIN … BEST EROTIC SITE OF THE YEAR 2018

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Congrats Frolicme…you are simply the best..so sensual, erotic and visually splendid…I love the lingerie, your leading men, your orgasmic locations and the feel of your film..you are a turn to individuals and couples alike the world over..thank you for being you..sashaholdenxx

Anyway I’ll leave you to get the Xmas table ready and see you in 2018!

Julien PaxtonNovember 29, 201729TH NOVEMBER 2017November 20172017-12-08T11:07:11-07:00December 8, 2017

Yes I know, it has only happened again! Another nomination has come our way. For the second time running my deliciously naughty and gorgeously beautiful erotic site Frolicme.com has been nominated for this year’s 2018 XBIZ awards for Best Erotic Site of the Year to be announced in Los Angeles in January. Woohoo, I hear you all shout … go girl!

You too can help us on our way, it’s very simple you simply do so BY ADDING YOUR VOTE HERE for Frolicme.com

The 16^th annual XBIZ awards are highly recognised within the industry, which have been hosted since 2003 to recognise and honour the achievements of many different multi national businesses who work within the adult world. So for us as a small independent (I say small but boy are we growing fast!), the recognition is a real achievement.

These XBIZ awards have been compared to the mainstream Hollywood’s Golden Globes. The red-carpet event will be hosted again in Los Angeles on 18^th January, all part of a programme of events that mark this annual occasion. The awards annually honour those individuals and companies that have been noted to have achieved within production, products, technology and retail within a highly competitive and large multimillion-dollar industry.

The size of the adult industry is a little clouded on the exact figures but is certainly deemed to be one of the largest industries, reports suggesting in excess of $97 billion, USA alone generating $10 – 12 billion a year. So for a startup independent female-founded business entering this hugely competitive world, I am delighted to be nominated again. In just a couple of years, Frolicme has rapidly become the “go to” site for so many women and couples looking for sex-positive creative and ethical erotica online. This nomination for Best Erotic Site just further signifies the strong global awareness the brand is continuing to achieve.

Yet again, another validation to entice even more potential members to take a peek and enjoy my erotic world of Frolicme.com

Goodness, I’m going to be busy in January… quick get those flights sorted!

 

How important is sexual chemistry in a relationship? New Love Times by Sasha Holden

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How Important Is Sexual Chemistry In A Relationship?

BY SASHA HOLDEN · DECEMBER 7, 2017

Sometimes we try to ignore it, to suppress the emotions surrounding it, as Keira Knightly did in New York when Edward Norton touched her hand in the film “Collateral Beauty.” Though experts and lay people all agree, sexual compatibility is not only real, it forms the very fabric that binds our relationships together. Perhaps they are correct in their assumptions. On a recent trip to Madrid, I was drawn to a painting wherein the muse drew her last breath following the death of her true love, from whom she had been separated since youth. Having been locked for years in a loveless arranged marriage at the request of her father, she had forever hungered for the intimacy of her long lost lover. Dramatic perhaps, yet one only has to read through the threads of online forums today to ascertain that in the absence of sexual compatibility, relationships are often doomed from the start.

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Let’s take a brief look at some online responses to a disillusioned forum member, found questioning the lack of intimacy within her current relationship. Hannah says,

“Sexual chemistry is vital. You need to feel the love and excitement of a relationship. Without sexual chemistry, you will feel unhappy with a lack of sex.”

Kathryn says,

“In my experience, sexual chemistry – if it’s not there – it will never be there. You will start to feel very guilty and resentful. For your sanity and his, it’s best to end a relationship without sexual chemistry.

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Jessica C says,

YES, sexual compatibilityy is very important. The thing is, it may help to balance and accept differences in other areas, and I think this is good as long as such differences don’t touch core values.

Nikki, in turn says,

Sexual compatibility is soooo important! I married a man that I did not have great chemistry with because he seemed like he was head over heels for me, and the lack of sexual attraction was one thing that killed our marriage and relationship.

Experts too, agree that sex and being sexually compatible, are two of the most essential ingredients required in maintaining a sustainable relationship. In fact, the lack of sexual compatibility, and sex for that matter, remain common reasons for relationship breakdowns today. They suggest that possessing sexual chemistry with your partner, feeling the desire, the hunger, and the excitement when you are intimate with them, helps to ensure your relationship shall go the distance.

For when that initial “loved up” phase we all go through in our relationship abates, we need to experience that sexual ccmpatibility, that sexual connection, to keep the flame alight. Most couples, over time, rarely have matching sex drives. The “he wants sex more than me” factor is a common issue raised during marriage counselling. Over time, menopause in women, lowering libido in men and aging, all bring their own sexual frustrations. During these turbulent times, the ever-present cracks in a sexless relationship tend to manifest themselves into a chasm that for many couples, is simply too big to cross. He or she has an affair or loses interest in the broader, everyday facets of the relationship. The inherent lack of a sexual bond between the couple can often lead to a slow and painful end to their relationship.

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Yet your search for a sexual compatibility need not always be a harrowing one. I was in an airport in Europe a month ago only to be touched on the shoulder by a stranger. Upon turning around, a tall, dark, and handsome man greeted me in a strong European accent with, “Excuse me,Ms Holden, your hair brush.”

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Having passed through the security screen, I had left my hair brush on the carousel in search of my laptop and other items. I then felt it. The power of sexual compatibility. Shivers whisked their way through the small of my back, tightening my torso and sending bolts of lightning in and out of my inner thighs in waves of exhilaration. My heels buckled for a split second. I blushed the color of his gorgeous Italian shirt and stuttered the only two words I was capable of saying, “Thank youuu..….”. For the length of the ensuing plane trip and throughout the coming months, I intermittently found myself swimming in a sea of pins and needles, as the memory of his voice sent me tingling off to sleep. Powerful, strong, resilient, sensual, erotic, sexual and surging, in, then out of our very existence. Sexual intimacy is a beautiful thing. Don’t leave home without it…

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Wishing you were here xxx

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Why Physical Intimacy In A Relationship Doesn’t Always Amount To Intercourse

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Why Physical Intimacy In A Relationship Doesn’t Always Amount To Intercourse

For years, physical intimacy has been proven by psychologists, relationship counsellors, and now sex therapists, to form an integral part of a healthy and successful relationship between couples. By physical intimacy we mean sex, don’t we? Well, not always. There’s a little more to physical intimacy than sailing between the sheets with your partner. Take a few minutes to hang out with me, and find out why physical intimacy in a relationship may not always have to mean sex. Remember, rule number 1, ‘you don’t always have to turn it on, to be a turn on.

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Touch, the power of tactile affection, is crucial to forming an intimate relationship with that special person in your life. We are all tired, stressed, and anxious from time to time. Often, the thought of rolling around in the hay just doesn’t feel all that enticing, does it? You’re cycle’s out of whack, you’re bothered by what happened during the day, you have an early start tomorrow, and you feel the need to bury every mirror in your apartment. Don’t despair, honey. It doesn’t all have to be about getting some action. The very essence of physical intimacy lies in communication with your partner. Connection. Affection.

 

 

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If you come to think about it, sex is something that you can have with anyone. Equating it with physical affection is a rookie mistake that will only leave you feeling alone and dissatisfied. Even one-night stands are a physical act which is all about sex. But there is rarely any intimacy in a one night stand, is there? People are essentially just looking for some companionship and love, and even though a one-night stand can momentarily give you the illusion of intimacy, it is merely just a shadow of the actual thing.

We all need something more than sex to feel wanted and loved and satisfied. Most of the time, marriages and relationships fail because the two people involved aren’t able to have great sex, but the truth of the matter is, you cannot have great sex, unless you are intimate with your partner. Intimacy therefore precedes sex, and there are a number of different ways that you can get physically intimate and close with your partner, without having actual intercourse with them.

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Touching your partner gently on the hand, on their wrist, or upon their arm during dinner are all examples of physical intimacy. Smiling at them, and then extending a gentle hand. Caressing the hair back from their forehead. Kissing them softly upon their jaw. Nestling into their side on a cold winter’s day. Play wrestling with them on the couch. Pillow fights in the morning. A cheeky love pat on the bum. A long and intimate hug upon saying goodbye. All of this counts. Another thing that is grossly underrated is PDA. The adrenaline rush that you get when you and your partner are physically connected when out in public is one of the best ways to establish physical intimacy in a relationship. Putting your arms around each other when you are with a group of people, a kiss on the forehead and holding hands; now, that’s connection.

That, girlfriend, is physical affection. Whether it is a foot, neck or back massage to relieve your lover’s tension, spooning them at night, or simply a kiss hello, it’s all about showing them you care. It is about wanting to touch them because you are attracted to them in ways that are more than sexual. It is about needing their touch and showing them that the physical affection that you have is merely a reflection of your mental, emotional and spiritual connection.

 

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Foreplay is also about physical intimacy, which, believe it or not, doesn’t always have to end up with a romp under the sheets. The right touches in the right places can make your hair stand on end and connect you and your partner in ways that you hadn’t even imagined. It gives you goosebumps and makes you feel a mutual sense of love, wanting and devotion, which can then later translate into some mind-blowing sex. But before any of that happens, you and your partner need to know that you are connected spiritually and mentally and you are comfortable with each other completely, which can only happen when you have established physical intimacy between the two of you.

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Life’s about those moments together, moments when physical intimacy toward your partner illustrates your genuine affection for them. “I love you, Sasha,” he said, as he leaned into me and placed the palms of his hands on my jawline. Gathering my hair together from my cheekbones before collecting it in a bun behind my neck, he stared longingly into my eyes, then kissed me ever so sweetly on the lips. Now, that’s physical intimacy. That’s the moment I first thought of when I opened my eyes today. And it had nothing to do with sex…well, not yet anyway…

 

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Tips On How To Look Better Naked And Make Him Horny

BY SASHA HOLDEN · NOVEMBER 30, 2017

Baring it all in front of him is a little more revealing than unbuckling the seatbelt when you’re a few thousand feet above sea level. When it comes down to taking it all off in front of him, it can be quite daunting, and frankly, a bit stifling. And what makes matters worse is everyone out there is telling you how to look better naked, in order to make your man horny. We have “Instyle” presenting us with 10 tips on how to look better naked, whilst fashion supremo, “Allure,” is giving us 27 ways to assist. Even Hollywood Celeb Kourtney Kardashian is in on the act with a home remedy of lotions and potions to apply on your skin to make yourself look better before baring it all in front of him.

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To be honest, I could write 10 pages-worth of content relaying better ways on how to look better naked, and in doing so, make your lover horny. I could start with nude makeup to accentuate your natural beauty, together with a combination of day/night facial and skin creams to prevent wrinkles and skin imperfections. Why, I could even suggest spray tan to camouflage your skin lines, and exfoliating scrubs to remove the cellulite. Obviously, I could devote a page or two to squats, push-ups, hill sprints, burpees, sit ups, swivels, ab and bum-busting workouts to keep you trim, taut, and terrific.

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But clearly, that would only serve to sugarcoat the real issue. The real issue is that your man has to find you hot and horny. And by you,I mean you, just the way you are. Okay, so you can dim the lights, even change the color of your lamp shade to protect those harsher lines, but the truth is, it’s all about your inner connection with him. Don’t despair though; if the sexual chemistry was there once, it can still be rekindled.

To look better naked, and in doing so, make him hot for you, my advice is to be sensible in the way you look after yourself, and not go overboard. By being sensible, I mean staying fit and healthy. If you can’t afford the gym, there are some great 15-minute workout videos you can find online. I train with sparkpeople.com for my abs,leg, and bum workouts as an example. A walk and some fresh air are good too. Stay out of direct sunlight, get a good night’s sleep, drink gallons of water, and eat well. In other words, fruits, vegetables, low fat alternatives where possible, and home or organically grown, if you can afford it.

And by not going overboard, I mean don’t try too hard. Remember, for the girl with the hourglass figure, time runs out very fast. You are never going to have the perfect shape and physique forever. Yet I know ‘us girls’ are never truly satisfied. I have girlfriends I have modelled alongside and hung out with in New York who are stunning on the outside, though crippled on the inside by fear and self-loathing at the way they look when they walk out the door, let alone the way they look naked.

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Most importantly, be realistic. If you are carrying a few extra pounds, a Brazilian wax may not be the best idea. I once read somewhere that keeping the triangle in line with your hip size may prove to be a good analogy. Actually, when I think of the “it” department, “landing strip” is one of the best rating #hashtags on my blog. So maybe that’s a good place to start, if in doubt. Finally, start where your lover is at. And if you are just getting to know him and aren’t aware of what makes him horny, don’t be afraid to ask him. In order to look better naked and make him horny, stay in touch with what it is that he likes. I’m not asking you to be submissive; far from it. I’m talking about being comfortable within your own skin, in the knowledge that he likes you that way. If he likes you wearing “Issey Miyake” perfume, wear it. If he likes your hair straight, then straighten it. If he enjoys you in dark eyeliner, darken it for him. While these are some of the potential things you could change about yourself, never change your core values and identity for anyone.

 

I was out with some friends in New York last week and they were on dating sites/apps, swiping right and left as the young girls appeared ad infinitum on their mobile screens. “I might meet her,” said Mitch. “Wow! She looks cool,” swooned Myles. Yet, I kind of thought that even in New York, as a girlfriend, i.e., as opposed to a potential date, you have the upper hand. You have the sexual chemistry, and yes, he has seen you naked before. You know what he likes. The best part about looking better naked and turning him on is you know you can do it. You’ve done it all before. So straighten your shoulders, pull that tummy in tight, and go get him, girl. Tell him you want him, you need him, you need to feel him close to you. That’s always a good place to start…just after you’ve dimmed the lights that is.

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Sasha Holden

Sasha Holden burst onto the literary scene in 2015. Her short stories quickly evoked passion within her fan base who related instantly to her unique brand of eroticism. The ability to engage the reader on both an emotional and physical level provided the key to her success. A renowned poet in her own right, Sasha released her first literary novel entitled “Sarah” Malcolm’s Prize on Amazon in mid-2015 to much critical acclaim within the erotic fiction industry. Like Sarah, her leading female characters more often than not lonely, yet longing to explore their innermost desires sexually. Her stories enter the most intimate corners of her characters’ minds, leaving no stone unturned in their quest for pleasure. The need for my eroticism to arouse readers on every level, as they turn the pages, is my ultimate goal as a writer. Sasha has a strong following in the UK and India, as well as her home base of US. She is now a published author with Moon and stars press.