I guess as a writer of erotic fiction I’m always hot and horny over one story or another. Whether its at “kiss and drop” picking up kids when I’m either having sex with someone or fantasizing about it, or at the gym giving oral to the gym instructor, something I’m writing is getting me wet between the legs. And speaking of gyms the older guys there tell me they’re masturbating more these days too, as their wives and partners aren’t interested in, as they say, “putting out” for them. “’Cause they’re either too tired, too stressed or just not that interested in sex on a regular basis,” they say.
But with porn becoming more female friendly in 2020 I was wondering if girls were “jilling off”enough? Or if there were reasons they were’nt. And if they were not “jilling off” often was it a good or a bad thing?
When we are young our hormones are racing. We are forever hiding in the bathroom playing with our pussies or laying in bed late at night fingering our wet little holes, fantasizing the boy we want to fuck at school or college. As we age masturbation can become more of a switch off tool, a stress relief or mechanism to rid ourselves of the angst of the day. It’s a time to escape work and enjoy some peace and quiet. Some me time when we can “jill off” in our own time, at our own leisure, or pleasure, as it were. But there is that secretive or sneaky element isn’t there? And what are we watching? Would our partners be offended by us watching the porn we are “jilling off too?” Does our lover actually want to know we are “jilling off’ to a girl being pounded mercilessly by a guy with a massive cock and the body of a Greek god? Who comes like a tsunami and fucks for 32 minutes every time!” It’s a dilemma isn’t it. Often when we were young we were fantasizing about what we didn’t know, hadn’t yet experienced or could not attain. Now as we age as females we are masturbating about fantasies we may or may not have experienced. Fantasies we may or may want to experience. Fantasies that take us away from our mundane “meat and three veg” life. At times when is or isn’t there. Be honest, we all feel like that at times. But is it such a bad thing?
I was talking with a girlfriend and she noted that as things get busy you need to plan your sex life.
“There just isn’t enough time in the week,“ she said.
“Kevin and I are like ships in the night”, she went on to say.
I came to the conclusion planning was a great idea, and that yes, I was “jilling off” too much. Yes I was having my standard “meat and three veg” vaginal sex during the week. But that rather than fantasizing about Mr Tsunami and “jilling off” to him I was going to make a bit more effort on the home front and spice up our sex life a tad. I wasn’t going to be one of those females the guys spoke of down at the gym. I didn’t myself feel guilty about “jilling off”, as I love being with my new partner and wouldn’t dream of straying in real life. But to be honest if the truth be known I selfishly didn’t fancy him “jacking off” to his own private “Miss or Mrs Tsunami”. So I put my thinking cap on and came up with the Sunday Banquet idea.
Our Sunday Banquet’s aren’t a feast, they’re more of a buffet spread. All you can eat in just over an hour. I take a shower, put on some sexy lingerie and lay in bed after breakfast and start to prepare my lover for what is about to come. Or should I say cum. BTW there’s no “jilling off” involved Lol. Its about extended fore and nipple play followed by him pleasuring me with his tongue, then fingers. It’s all about him getting inside my wet hole filling me up with his gorgeous (medium sized) cock. It’s about us taking time and me allowing him to slowly fuck me in my bum, which I know he loves. It’s about the finale, where I suck him off to round out the Sunday Banquet, with dessert (or so to speak). It’s not about secrets, its not sneaky, its not about fantasies. It’s about knowing what we both like, and enjoy. Its about mutual pleasure and mutual satisfaction.
“Sashawriteslikeawet dream and is strangely the epitome of a feminist writer taking bold ownership of her gender in her exploration of female sexuality. She is as smart as a whip!” Warwick Newnham 2016
“The ability to engage the reader, to stir feelings deep within their being, is the ultimate goal of erotic fiction. When the reader takes the place of the characters in my story, I have succeeded”
― Sasha Holden,
Sasha Holden the feminist
Sasha Holden has become a reputed relationship writer and many of her articles, posts and answerS to questions on platforms such as Quora and Medium focus on female sexuality, assertiveness, direction and self confidence.
My stories Sarah, Jenifer, Kate, Liz, Maria, Jeesica and Sophie have strong female characters as their leads, writes Sasha. Yet each character has a sense of vulnerability and at times, a feeling of insecurity, clouding their everyday lives. Each beautiful both outside and from within, these female characters have a close connection to individuals with whom they share their lives, their most erotic thoughts and their intimate moments. Sasha Holden Flipboard Media
Sasha’s female leads exhibit both strength and vulnerability in their quest for contentment. “I am so much looking forward to this next chapter”, said Jessica Stanton. “This change has a good vibe written all over it. No more traffic lights, horns, late night ambulance sirens, last minute deadlines, shallow advertising executives and take out. I’m in search of peace, tranquility, and country”.
Jessica Stanton, in “Cowboy Up” by Sasha Holden
“As a mentor to female writers and authors online and off Sasha is a strong advocate for female rights and causes,” Sophie Lam Display Media.
5.0 out of 5 starsA sexual tale told artfully so, full of passion and beautiful words Sylvia Storm
5 May 2015 — Published on Amazon.com
An erotic tale told in poetic form. A beautiful and wonderful sensory experience, and it still keeps the heat going page after page. If you are into traditional narrative you may want to look elsewhere (but still read the preview, it is mind blowing); but for those with a love of passion, sex, and the art of words — this is a delectable treat to be savored. An amazing work full of kinky encounters and heightened sexual experiences. Strong recommend and an in-depth review over on my blog.
Sasha Holden the Author
Sasha Holden burst onto the literary scene in 2015. Her short stories quickly evoked passion within her fan base who related instantly to her unique brand of eroticism. The ability to engage the reader on both an emotional and physical level provided the key to her success. A renowned poet in her own right, Sasha released her first literary novel entitled “Sarah” Malcolm’s Prize on Amazon in mid-2015 to much critical acclaim within the erotic fiction industry. Like Sarah, her leading female characters more often than not lonely, yet longing to explore their innermost desires sexually. Her stories enter the most intimate corners of her characters’ minds, leaving no stone unturned in their quest for pleasure. The need for my eroticism to arouse readers on every level, as they turn the pages, is my ultimate goal as a writer. Sasha has a strong following in the UK and India, as well as her home base of US. She is now a published author with Moon and stars press, Readfingers and Sasha Holden Publications.
Takes you the reader through the seasons with their rustic countryside and unparalleled oceans back through the busy contemporary society in which we live.
As a fashion, lingerie and swimsuit model from 17–26 Sasha Holden became successful in Europa and the USA working for elite agencies. Her tall attractive figure and blonde complexion won her online catalogue and photographic work in addition to a host of runway shows worldwide
Her feature writing
Sasha studied writing at University through her English major degree, in addition to marketing and communications.
She is a feature writer for several publications including New Love Time and Business Insider India.
Sasha Holden met fashion photographer Jack Strainey on location in Venice Italy in January 2003 (formerly of Incite Fashion Photography — UK) and the couple were engaged in March 2005. The couple called off the engagement in March 2006 citing pressures from Sasha’s entry into the world of erotic fiction writing.
‘I guess I was a bit young and naive at the time”, said Sasha later for an interview at FirstInPress.
“I perhaps should have kept my identity anonymous for the erotic writing brought with it a plethora of unwanted male attention from stalkers, to explicit mail, sexual phone calls from unknown third parties and even male visitors to our New York Apartment. It all became a bit too much for Jack. And to be honest I can’t blame him for pulling the pin. Since then I have endeavoured to keep my identity a secret to protect not only myself, but my partner(s),” Sasha said at the time.
Sasha is reportedly dating a leading New York male model of New York Model Management 9 years her junior. The couple live and reside in New York and frequently travel back to her native Australia over Christmas and New Year each year.
Sasha the script writer
In 2017 Sasha started writing scripts for the Adult film industry. Erotic stories for films such as “So Smooth” for www.frolicme.com have been well received and Sasha is keen to pursue script writing for porn sites, adult entertainment sites and performers.
Many of Sasha’s stories are now available online in audio. “My readers, fans and followers love being able to not just read but listen to my stories in the privacy of their own home and even with their partners,” she notes. “But I must admit to having a rather horny house wife from Arkansas State saying she loved every bit of “So Smooth” while hanging out the washing.I laughed when she said she had to put her panties back through the washer having just put them on moments before”, Sasha said.
Sasha’s erotic poetry speaks volumes of female lust, desire and sexual hunger. Famous poems including “Open a little wider’”, “Feeling sore”, “Inside my groove” and “Swimming” are seen as leading edge erotic poems with literally thousand of views online at her blog www.sashaholden1.wordpress.com
Sasha Holden the business woman
Having studied marketing and communications in addition to English Honours at University Sasha Holden is well placed to write and promote artists, elite models, adult entertainment sites and businesses in general.
If you are looking for copy for your website, increased exposure for your business or promotions and marketing campaigns to attract more customers, email firstname.lastname@example.org today to see how she can assist you.
Sasha Holden hobbies and interests
Apart from sex and writing about it Sasha enjoys Italian food, reading Australian writers, playing tennis and surfing..She recently started playing golf, “I’m really enjoying being out on the course,” said Sasha.
This profile was compiled by Sophie Lam of Emporia Media
(formerly Display Media)
Short isn’t usually a phrase synonymous with porn, but I’d have to say the short answer is yes. The long answer is somewhat more complicated.
I was sitting having a coffee earlier in the week with Jodie, a middle aged Mom who is the eldest sister of one of my closest girlfriends. I walk with her in Central Park after yoga on Thursdays. She was asking me what I was writing. I told her I was working on a story about porn for my new Medium digest blog. “I’m a porn star”, she pronounced, before laughing out loud.
“I still like being fucked doggystyle by Danny on Saturday nights after all the kids are asleep. I then go down on him, and let him shoot all over my face before finishing him off with a blowjob”, she exclaimed.
“Okay so then I retreat to the front porch for a cigarette and a gin, while he sleeps off a six pack and a week of shift work. I guess not many big boobed blonde female porn star’s finish there 5 minute 10 second porn movies that way do they?” Jodie questions, reflecting on her real life porn story.
And Jodie’s probably correct in what she says. The Brandi Love’s of the porn world usually finish off their porn movies (having been facialized by their middle aged steroid driven male co star), with a swallow of his wad of cum, a smile and a cheesy line like “Man you taste good”.
Front porch reflections after sex aren’t really par for the porn course in 2020.
“So what is par for the porn course in 2020?” I pondered.
I thought to answer this question I’d dig a little deeper with my middle aged friend Jodie.
“So what have you been jilling off to lately Jodie?” I enquired.
“When Danny’s out on shift work that is?” I asked.
“Well I’m thinking it’s all fantasy anyway, isn’t Sasha”, she responded, somewhat hesitantly, with an embarrassed smile meeting her apparent blush. “But I’ve been watching those Stepmom movies. You know, the ones where the Stepmom shows her stepdaughter how to have sex with her boyfriend, and then decides to fuck him as well”, she says, before bursting out laughing.
“You know, the ones where the stepdaughter licks her from underneath while he is doing her from behind. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to have a threesome where someone was licking me while a guy was screwing me. Thats a real turn on for me”, Jodie announces, as if to release herself of a heavy burden.
“Cool,” I said. “That’s cool”, I said, thankful to her for opening up (or so to speak) on her porn story.
Then having chatted to several girlfiriends around my own age I realised that porn in 2020 was in fact becoming more female friendly. Having perused through porn platforms such as beeg.com I found that many of the big star were males, which was good to see. Clearly I’m not the only female jilling off on porn in 2020. And my porn research highlighted that many of the male porn stars online were slightly younger and a little thinner than they were a decade ago. They weren’t all James Deen’s but they weren’t all old hulks who looked like their only job could have been in male porn, if you pick up on my thread.
Yes there were all those stupid fetish type feeds that are a turn off to most females, like squirting, scat and an over abundance of female solo movies, but for the main part there were plenty of female friendly films to choose from. And that was on a mainstream porn feed. But in 2020 I’ve converted many of my girlfriends, and indeed some of my male colleagues across to a new era of female friendly porn channels, including “Frolicme.com”. I must confess to writing for Anna over at “Frolicme”. So yes i may appear a tad biased, but realistically “Frolicme”, and porn sites of the same genre, are definitely appealing to girls and women who like a bit more intimacy with their porn, and a little less of the rough sex tag we think of when analysing porn. The “Frolicme” films have a European feel and traverse across a plethora of genres and sexual tags. From male masturbation, couples sex, female only, gay, interracial and solo sex scenes, there is a fresh feel to these female friendly shorts, wherein the cinematography, costume design (or lack of it), and engaging scripts, all add to the appeal of this subscription based service. And btw it’s not just films. At “Frolicme” you can choose whether to feed your porn in audio or script form in addition to movie format. Whilst there’s plenty of porn pics for you “jill off” to on the site if you’re not up for a full feature.
In conclusion the long answer is porn in 2020 is more female friendly than it was in the late 90’s. Plenty of girls and women are enjoying jilling off to or simply watching stylish porn that isn’t all about men getting their rocks off. But yes we still have a bit of a way to go. Finding sound female friendly porn online that is easy on the eyes can be difficult at times. There is still an overwhelming abundance of unrealistic porn movies that are filmed far away from from the real life sexual situations we find ourselves in.
But as Jodie said, “Well I’m thinking it’s all fantasy anyway, isn’t Sasha”.
Short isn’t usually a phrase synonymous with porn, but I’d have to say the short answer is yes. The long answer is somewhat more complicated.
I was sitting having a coffee earlier in the week with Jodie, a middle aged Mom who is the eldest sister of one of my closest girlfriends. I walk with her in Central Park after yoga on Thursdays. She was asking me what I was writing. I told her I was working on a story about porn for my new Medium digest blog.
“I’m a porn star”, she pronounced, before laughing out loud.
“My heart sank into the airport foyer. Then below the thin green carpet, down through the concrete and into the foundations of Thai Airs Bangkok Airport. With my bags now on the carousel I hugged him one last time. He clutched onto me, drawing every last breath from my tightened rib cage. Tears streamed down my cheeks in a flooding cascade that drenched my pink dress, floating across my small breasts down onto my bra below. He hugged me once more. His strong hands grasping at my hipline, drawing me into his gate. It’s not forever he said, it’s not forever. ”